Resources

Check out these additional resources for books, media, blogs, and online support.

Alliance of Hope

Alliance of Hope

24/7 Online Support Group for Suicide Loss Survivors

The Alliance of Hope was created by survivors for survivors. They provide online healing support and other services for people who are coping with devastating loss to suicide. Find online support groups, community forums, a bookstore, and even counseling via Skype and phone. Recommended by a Muskegon local who found healing through this alliance!

Grief Out Loud

The Dougy Center’s Podcast

Remember the last time you tried to talk about grief and suddenly everyone left the room? Grief Out Loud is opening up this often avoided conversation because grief is hard enough without having to go through it alone. This podcast brings you a mix of personal stories, tips for supporting children, teens, and yourself, and interviews with bereavement professionals. Platitude and cliché-free, we promise!

Widow Connection

Resources for Widows

Author and speaker Miriam Neff founded this site to connect widows (a word she still doesn't like) and offer tips on finances, relationships, and more. You'll find it very practical and informational. This site also includes a podcast where Miriam and her daughter discuss specific lessons they've learned on various topics as it relates to spousal and partner loss. Miriam is one of the returning speakers at the local Widow's Retreat in Muskegon each October.

What's Your Grief?

Grief Support Blog

In these blogs, Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams seek to leave no stone unturned in demystifying the complicated and sometimes crazy experience of living life after loss. Covering a variety of grief topics, grievers and grief professionals alike will find their approach practical, relatable, informative and engaging. The site also provides many ways for readers to participate in posts, ask questions, and honor their loved ones. Highly Recommended.

The Compassionate Friends

Online Community for Child Loss

The Compassionate Friends offer online support for bereaved parents, as well as local chapters of support groups. Learn from others who have also walked this difficult road, and share your own experience when the worst thing has happened.

Open to Hope

Online Community for any Death Loss

Find and share stories of Hope here, and connect with others who have experienced grief and loss.

Mothers Against Drunk Driving

Resources for Victims of Drunk and Drugged Driving

MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving) provides a wide variety of supportive services including honoring your loved ones, understanding your rights, help in preparing a victim impact statement, connecting you with local chapters, and more. A very active resource provided at no cost to victims.

Share

Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support

Share Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support is a community for anyone who experiences the tragic death of a baby. They serve parents, grandparents, siblings, and others in the family unit. Services include bed-side companions, phone support, face-to-face support group meetings, resource packets, private online communities, memorial events, and so much more. You can also find a Share Chapter near you.

Refuge In Grief

Support for any Death Loss

"Some things cannot be fixed, they can only be carried," says creator and widow Megan Devine, who seeks to tell the truth about grief, with no sugar-coating. She offers a "Writing in Grief" course and other unique opportunities.

Twinless Twins Support Group

Support for Loss of a Twin

Losing a twin or close sibling is a unique experience, as the founders of this support group well know. Find useful resources, events, and consider joining as a member if you are a twinless twin.  

WebHealing

Interactive Grief Forums

A grief resource website that was the first of its kind to use technology to help people through their grief. Forums include death of a child, spouse, sibling, parent, suicide, and more.

Ask Dr. Neimeyer

Q & A Column on Grief and Bereavement

Dr. Robert Neimeyer is active in the field of grief and bereavement, and offers this weekly question and answer column, directed by readers like you. Ask questions in confidentiality, and read through other frequently asked questions. Dr. Neimeyer offers practical and honest advice.

T.A.P.S.

Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors

Caring for families of America's Fallen Heroes through peer-based emotional support,community-based carecasework assistance and a 24/7 National Military Survivor Helpline.

National Widowers Organization

Support for Men Grieving a Loss

This is a virtual toolkit for men coping with loss of a loved one - led and organized by widowers themselves.

National Alliance for Grieving Children

Support for Children, Teens, and Families

NAGC is a non-profit organization that raises awareness about the needs of children and teens who are grieving a death and provides education and resources for anyone who supports them. A leading resource in the field...highly recommended.

Parents of Murdered Children, Inc

For parents and other co-victims of homicide

On-going emotional support, education, prevention, advocacy, and awareness of murder and violence. 

Borrow a Book

Books are another great way to gain insight from those who have been where you are. Many of these books for adults, teens, and children are available to borrow at a Sytsema Location! Contact Keri (231-855-6688) to check availability. However, these are great books to have on hand and read more than once, so feel free to follow the link to purchase your own copy!

 

Healing A Parent's Grieving Heart

100 Practical Ideas

Alan Wolfelt, PH.D

 

With these constructive and feasible suggestions, parents can discover healthy ways to take action in their grief after a child dies. Wolfelt has also written 100 practical ideas for children, spousal loss, teens, traumatic death, and the list goes on.

 

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When Your Soulmate Dies
Alan Wolfelt, PH.D

 

Any book by Alan Wolfelt would be highly recommended. This one in particular lays out the honest truth about coping with the loss of a spouse. 

 

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A Grace Disguised
Gerald Sittser

 

This book is especially unique in covering the interweaving of trauma and faith.  The author's practical, no-nonsense approach to grief can be applied to many of our stories and radiates hope for the griever in a platitude-free manner. 

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On Grief and Grieving
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and

David Kessler

 

If there is a grief topic that is not included in this book – I don't know what it is. From regret and relief to possessions of your loved one and holidays, this book has it covered. Insightful, theoretical, and practical all rolled up in one.  

 

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Five Cries of Grief
Merton and Irene Strommen

 

After the tragic loss of their 25 year old son, these parents, Merton and Irene, write from individual perspectives, even as they share the same loss.

 

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Passed and Present: Keeping Memories of Loved Ones Alive
Allison Gilbert

 

Passed and Present is a one-of-a-kind guide for discovering creative and meaningful ways to keep the memory of loved ones alive.

 

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Grievers Ask
Harold Ivan Smith

 

Filled with wisdom and fueled by common questions from grievers, Harold Ivan Smith, well-known for his seminars and books on grief, explores the difficult questions that we're all wondering. 

 

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From One Widow To Another
Miriam Neff

 

Widows of all ages can benefit from the Miriam's insights as she reveals her struggles and victories in the murky waters of widowhood. She offers advice on finances, how to surround yourself with wise supporters, and even how to find renewed purpose and mission. 

 

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Grief is a Journey
Dr. Kenneth J. Doka

 

In this “volume of rare sensitivity, penetrating understanding, and profound insights” (Rabbi Earl A. Grollman, author of Living When a Loved One Has Died), Dr. Kenneth Doka explores a new, compassionate way to grieve, explaining that grief is not an illness to get over but an individual and ongoing journey.

 

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Parting Company: The Caregiver's Journey
Cynthia Pearson and Margaret Stubbs

 

Each year, millions of people care for dying loved ones. Through surprising statistics, compassionate advice, and compelling interviews with 14 people, from family members who nursed a dying relative to professionals who regularly aid the terminally ill, this unique book shows caregivers what to expect and how to cope.

 

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Heartbroken
Gary Roe

 

Gary Roe has walked with hundreds of widows and widowers through this painful valley. From their stories he has composed this incredibly practical work that will touch your heart and comfort your soul.

 

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Books For Kids and Teens

One Wave at a Time
Holly Thompson

 

I love using this book for kids because, in addition to the great illustrations, it gives language to feelings that are difficult for children to identify. After the death of the boy's dad, different emotions (anger, sadness, happiness, fear, numbness) wash over him throughout the day. This book affirms the complex emotions that children feel and encourages them to "surf" the waves as they come. 

 

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The Invisible String
Patrice Karst

 

This book doesn't use "grief language" and may not even have been intended for such, but I like how the idea of an "invisible string" connects them to their loved ones and encourages those continuing bonds. The main theme of the book is that we are never alone, so read this book to children who need to be encouraged and affirmed by that truth.  

 

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Samantha Jane’s Missing Smile
Julie Kaplow and Donna Pincus

 

This tender, honest story is a practical way to teach children that sharing their feelings is important and acceptable. After Samantha Jane's father dies, she doesn't want to overwhelm herself or burden her mother by expressing emotions. The author is clever about using Samantha Jane's thoughts to explain to readers that our feelings won't just go away if we try to ignore them, but taking action in our grief is when healing can begin.  

 

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When Dinosaurs Die

Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown

 

This helpful book provides answers to kids' most-often asked questions and also explores the feelings we may have regarding the death of a loved one, and the ways to remember someone after he or she has died.

 

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A Hug from Heaven

Anna Whiston-Donaldson

 

A Hug from Heaven is unique in that it's written as a poem of love from the person who died. The message of the book is that love is stronger than death, and it is okay to hurt and feel many different emotions as we miss our loved ones.

 

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The Memory Box

Joanna Rowland

 

From the perspective of a young child, Joanna Rowland artfully describes what it is like to remember and grieve a loved one who has died. The child in the story creates a memory box to keep mementos and written memories of the loved one, to help in the grieving process. Heartfelt and comforting, The Memory Box will help children and adults talk about this very difficult topic together.

 

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Deconstruction/Reconstruction

A Grief Journal

 

The Dougy Center's first journal especially created for grieving teens. Whether a teen has experienced the death of a parent, sibling, grandparent, close friend, or other family member, this Deconstruction/Reconstruction journal is an advice-free place where teens can draw, write, paint, and transform whatever they're thinking and feeling.   

 

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If Only

Carole Geithner

 

Excellent for teens and adults alike, the main character experiences the loss of her mom to cancer, and walks through what the first year is like as she navigates life without her mom. The details of family life and school friendships are honest and convincing, capturing both the difficulties and the unfamiliarity of life after loss. 

 

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Straight Talk about Death for Teenagers

Earl A. Grollman

 

If you are a teenager whose friend or relative has died, this book was written for you. Earl A. Grollman, the award-winning author of Living When a Loved One Has Died, explains what to expect when you lose someone you love.

 

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Watch this very worthwhile video clip about the importance of involving children in funeral services and ritual events. As parents, we want to protect our children from death and difficult experiences...but, we promise, a funeral won't hurt them! Rather, the experience is proven to be helpful in their grief process as they remember and honor their loved ones and have a chance to say goodbye.   

Free E-book Downloads

The Gift of Grief

Learn more about the grieving process and how you can find peace

 

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Dealing With Family Dynamics After a Loss

Prevent family disputes during difficult times

 

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Ginger's Pups Coloring Book

Help children with their grief during the loss of a loved one

 

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